Men: Why should we for pay everything?
By Thomas Brouillard
EDI 17 Psychology & Development of Adolescent Students
School of Education
Long Island University, C. W. Post
March 18, 2009
I thought today’s class was very interesting. We were introduced to the topic of gender and I thought the class activity was fun. When I first walked into the class I wasn’t sure what to expect, especially since we were divided up by gender. Reflecting on it I thought it was a good idea to divide the tables up by gender, allowing each side to be honest without worrying about what the opposite gender would say. I thought the “box” activity was very creative and opened up a very interesting discussion between the male and female side of the class.
While certain things were said in good fun I thought a lot of the topics discussed asked many interesting questions. Taking an impartial stance on the basic construct of the class I though both sides had misconceptions of the opposite side. There were stereotypes that were brought up and a lot of good points were made about them. For example one of them was the stereotype that it is expected that the man will pay for most things including dinner. The dinner aspect was specifically brought up.
Being a man in that position before I honestly did feel like I was expected to pick up the tab. I had an awkward moment one time when I didn’t go grab the check right away when it was put on the table. Let’s just say I got a stare that made me pretty unconformable. I paid for it and I didn’t have a problem doing that but I didn’t like the fact that I was expected to. Now I am sure that not all women in that situation would expect me to, but I do feel a good amount would. I brought up the dinner tab example to show that both sides are sometimes expected to do things based on gender when it’s not really fair.
Another topic brought up that I thought was interesting was the question of whether as a man I would feel inferior or have a problem with my wife or girlfriend making more money or be considered more successful career wise than myself. Honestly it would not bother me very much. I would hope that they are successful, it makes the relationship more healthy. I would have more of a problem if I was the only one pulling the weight in working or other areas and my girlfriend or wife were not contributing. Although I know some people would disagree with me, and one major reason why I think is it may hurt a man’s pride. But for myself personally I would not have a problem with it, I would want them to be happy and successful. I think that if each gender were to be sincere with the other a lot of problems would be avoided. That applies to both social situations and in the classroom.
Long Island University, C. W. Post
March 18, 2009
I thought today’s class was very interesting. We were introduced to the topic of gender and I thought the class activity was fun. When I first walked into the class I wasn’t sure what to expect, especially since we were divided up by gender. Reflecting on it I thought it was a good idea to divide the tables up by gender, allowing each side to be honest without worrying about what the opposite gender would say. I thought the “box” activity was very creative and opened up a very interesting discussion between the male and female side of the class.
While certain things were said in good fun I thought a lot of the topics discussed asked many interesting questions. Taking an impartial stance on the basic construct of the class I though both sides had misconceptions of the opposite side. There were stereotypes that were brought up and a lot of good points were made about them. For example one of them was the stereotype that it is expected that the man will pay for most things including dinner. The dinner aspect was specifically brought up.
Being a man in that position before I honestly did feel like I was expected to pick up the tab. I had an awkward moment one time when I didn’t go grab the check right away when it was put on the table. Let’s just say I got a stare that made me pretty unconformable. I paid for it and I didn’t have a problem doing that but I didn’t like the fact that I was expected to. Now I am sure that not all women in that situation would expect me to, but I do feel a good amount would. I brought up the dinner tab example to show that both sides are sometimes expected to do things based on gender when it’s not really fair.
Another topic brought up that I thought was interesting was the question of whether as a man I would feel inferior or have a problem with my wife or girlfriend making more money or be considered more successful career wise than myself. Honestly it would not bother me very much. I would hope that they are successful, it makes the relationship more healthy. I would have more of a problem if I was the only one pulling the weight in working or other areas and my girlfriend or wife were not contributing. Although I know some people would disagree with me, and one major reason why I think is it may hurt a man’s pride. But for myself personally I would not have a problem with it, I would want them to be happy and successful. I think that if each gender were to be sincere with the other a lot of problems would be avoided. That applies to both social situations and in the classroom.
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