Long Island University, C. W. Post
October , 2010
Showing favoritism is one of the worst aspects of parenting. Favoritism is showing one child more love, help, attention, and wisdom than another child. If one child is favored, the other child is going to feel unworthy, helpless, and unimportant. Parents need to look out for equally favoring all of their children. It is best if parents do this because then each child feels equal and special. All will get the attention they deserve and the help they need when necessary. Sometimes it is hard to not show any favoritism because some children will excel at things the parents in interested in or hope for. However, if one child needs more help in school and isn’t as good at sports, for example, it is not good to praise his or her brother or sister and compare that child to his or her lack of success. This will only make the child feel unworthy and less than his or her sibling.
There are many effects of favoritism. If one child is completely disregarded for a majority of their life, he or she may rebel and go against the parents. This child may even disown his or her parents and may not want to be in any contact with them. This child may also disown his or her siblings because of how much pain and insecurity the sibling brought upon him or her for being the “better” child. Therefore, it is never good to show complete favoritism. There are times where one child may need help or encouragement more than another, but it is important to equalize the way all children are treated as a whole.
2 comments:
Over 3 years ago, my mom did something so sweet. My credit was destroyed by medical bills from a sick child. I had no credit. She agreed to let me place my life savings down on a home and she place it in her name. Christmas Day my home burned to the ground mysteriously. My contract burned as well. My mom kept the money and has started paying off all her homes she owns. As a middle child, I was treated different, had to work at 16, buy my own clothes, lunch, car. Even my car was given away to a relative saying they needed it. I was 19 riding a bus. My brother however, got a new vehicle at 15, wrecked it and awarded a better vehicle. At 48, lives with my parents and she still pays his bills and buys his son nice gifts. I am now homeless after the fire. My mom I always loved so much has done so many bad things that i am ashamed to tell, even putting people up to calling people malisciously. My entire life, I have felt worthless and became deathly ill with a disease.
Parents, please don't treat your middle child so bad. My dad told me my mom appologized when I was born saying" I am sorry she isn't a boy". I was beaten and tormented and wore her hand print on my face sometimes because i was sick and she would say "you have been smoking pot". She has been the most abusive mom in the world. I am moving on with my life now. I have been abused by men. It is all due to the upbringing of being told "you are nobody". Buying more for Christmas for my brother, etc. I know it says to honor your parents in the bible, but God knows my mom just stole over $70,000 from me. I will never forgive her.
I am a middle child. I watched as a child my brother receive more gifts at Christmas. I watched as i was forced to work at 16 and buy my own clothes, food, gas and car. He was given all this for free. As we got older, he had a son. One of my children became seriously ill and I had bad credit. My mom had a great idea about putting my home in her name. The home burned down recently. She claimed all the insurance money and I was left homeless with kids to raise. I know it says in the bible to honor and obey your parents. My mom did things growing up that parents just don't do, like send anonymous letters to other parents "hate mail." Stealing money from me after I worked so hard for $2.70 an hour, etc. My brother has always been given the world. he lives with her now. She raises and keeps up his illegit son and buys him cars. I am homeless now after my mom took this money from my burned down home. I know that God would not want me to continue being hurt by her. I am embarrassed to tell some of the bad things she did over the years to me. She appologized to my dad when I was born because I wasn't a boy. She made my life a living hell cutting my hair screaming "I hate your red hair." I was not a pretty child growing up. She beat me for being ugly. I was always told I was ugly and "everyone is laughing at you. She always reminded me of the mom of the movie "Carrie". I have lost everything. I honestly thought my momm was going to help me and do something good for the first time in her entire life. She has purchased my brother and his son nice vehicles and paid off her bills with my life savings. Way to go mom. I hope there is a God. All my life, I was told I was ugly by you and you beat me and I wore your hand print on my face because i would be sick and you would claim I was just trying to stay out of school. I was an innoscent virgin at 19 and still i couldn't make her happy. Please parents, don't have a middle child if you are not a loving parent. My entire life has been a living hell. I have felt I had to love her because of the bible. She loved using the bible, "honor your parents". My brother has had a life of drug abuse and awarded for that. I can say much more. Bad parents, I pray God holds you accountable. I have children that hate their grandmother. They have seen all this for themselves. I tried to keep it a secret.
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